Dear younger brother Gautam,

Letters and faxes are now almost extinct. Now the use of social media like Facebook, WhatsApp and Blog has begun to convey the messages. Perhaps the dominance of the social media has been established. So now we also need to get upgraded, right?

I am writing this to you because you are going to come out of the cocoon. You have completed your school education and tomorrow you will enter any college. It would be absolutely correct to say that you have been in a very safe environment so far. However, there have been many experiences in it as you have studied in a hostel. I look very respectfully to the hostel's life because the hostel itself is a school where you live with students from different communities and live with the spirit of brotherhood by settling with their customs. But your life may have surrounded by books only in these days. And the institution where you have studied had dissociated you from society, so the viability of social life should not have come in your way yet.

But now it's time to get out of the classroom. College education and school education are very different. Now you are going to an environment where there is no security ... and that is the only life ... you can peer into yourself only in insecurity. But before starting this new start let me draw your attention to a few issues, which I have experienced and I think I should tell you. Friend, this time is that your blood is full of enthusiasm, every day new thoughts are striking in your head and if you look into the outside world, many things will take place in your eyes and you will feel that this should be changed. Every day, your perspectives about life will change. Every day a new truth will come in front of you. Many times you will be pleasantly surprised, many times you will get angry, often you will get hurt, you will also get disappointed. But at that time you have to make a decision, keeping calm mind and seeing what is appropriate to your present. At such times it may happen that you yourself believe alone, but the fact is that no one is alone, if you are with yourself.

For the past few months, you may be able to see the changes happening within you. Now your body is making all kinds of changes, within itself. Now every week you have to make a beard. Your sexual hormones are getting activated. You are feeling physical and emotional changes in the body. The college's free atmosphere and your physical changes will motivate you to attract the opposite sex. It is very common that when a girl comes within the radius of 60 cm of you and you gets a thrill in the body. There is a need to take care of such a time. Often the person you feel you are in love with may be nothing but a physical impulse. If these impulses get out of control, it can lead to bad results. It is not a bad thing, having a female friend is a wonderful phenomenon, but it is very important to recognize the relationship with her. Somewhere, it should not happen that the relationship gets mixed and it hurts you. Similarly, it is also very important to identify friends. It is not necessary that you have a whole lot of friends, it is important that you have friends who help you in your development. It is very important to manage relationships during these times. Not every relationship is right. It is important to know who is related to selfishness and who is connected with the heart and when the relationship breaks in an era of time, think about it before breaking the relationship. When we have a nail increased, we do not cut fingers, cut nails, but yes, if finger has gangrene, then finger should be cut. That means, when you talk about it, see if it is your fingertip's nail that increased or it is gangrene. It is very important to know when to stop, where to stop and from where to escape in relationships and situations. During this time you have to identify yourself. You have to find the subjects of your interest. It is not necessary that you get top marks in university exams, but it is essential that you learn how to use the education practically. Marks and ranks are never proof of your cleverness or skill. Education is not about pouring syllabus in your brain. Brother, get the sense of education that helps you fulfill your dreams and develop a personality that is useful to society.

Now leave these serious things. This is also the time to have fun. It is not necessary to study twenty-four hours. College is meant to make every kind of experience, but it is necessary to have good conscience. It is not necessary to sleep at 10:30 every night and wake up at 5 in the morning. Sometimes it is wonderful to chill all night, and on the next day, in the room of hostel, close the doors to darken it and enjoy the full day sleep. Sometimes, instead of taking a full dinner, it is fantastic to have Pepsi and Gopal making it mini party. You may not get the opportunity to have tea on roadside stalls with group of friends after college. The city you went to study, eat all the famous dishes of the city, go to the dark areas of the city and sometimes watch the last show in theatre and go back to hostel by walk... how sexy it is! Friend, these things will make the boundaries of your mind and thoughts bigger, your thoughts will be matured and your vision will become huge. During these things, you will find a friend with whom you can freely discuss, exchange ideas. And yes, one important thing - not forgetting to visit your city library. You did not visit your city library, which means that you did not recognize your city. Books are a part of our lives that must be ensured. I have learned that a lot can be learned from good films and good books.

During all these times you will make mistakes. You may show insanity many places, but be sure that we are with you. You're never alone. It is not a bad thing to make mistakes, but make sure you do not repeat it, learn from it. It is not necessary to live intelligently, it is necessary to keep your mind open and alive. All the things that I have told you is the nutshell of my good and bad experiences Brother! This is what I am writing should not be the load in your brain but it should be the light in your heart. You will learn all these things from experience.

Regards